Thursday, April 17, 2014
There's this crazy myth going around that a great relationship takes work. I completely disagree. All the great relationships that I have and that I've seen that others have are completely effortless. Effort = struggle and struggle doesn't lend itself well to happiness.
Effortlessness is what you do without thinking and the things that you do without thinking are your habits. You want to create habits that are uplifting for your relationship and create good feelings.
However, changing the habits that we DO is far less effective in getting where we want to be that changing what we habitually THINK.
Why is this? Because thoughts are the foundation of our reality. Everything that your life consists of was created this way: you think thoughts that cause you to feel a certain way and then out of those feelings, you react or respond in the words that you speak and what you do. What you say and do creates your world. Things don't just appear in your life.
You want to refocus your attention on the people, things and circumstance that you love. An extremely effective way to do this is to ask yourself questions because questions are like a command to your brain and your brain won't stop searching and finding examples to answer the question.
Thinking the thoughts that will get you where you want to be is THE most important part of getting there. From there your feelings emerge and if these feelings are empowering and positive, you'll speak positive and empowering words and you'll take positive and empowering actions.
Don't forget to enter my contest. Everyone that enters wins my book "The One Essential Ingredient to Have a Happy, Loving and Close Relationship" and has the chance to win a $200 rleationship improvement program and a $100 gift card to Barnes and Noble.
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
I would like to build a program to help people in my area of expertise: relationships. I'd like it to be all that it can be. It's extremely important to me that it be tremendously valuable, effective and something that solves the top two or three biggest problems that people face in their relationships.
The problem that I'm having is that I have too many ideas. For three days now I've been thinking about what I can do to figure out what kind of program other people will find the most valuable and what problems people face most often in their relationships. It occurred to me this morning to just ask as many people as possible.
How could I ask people in a way that also benefits them? I don't want to just ask for stuff, I want to give something back for such a favor. Then, I listened to a video on YouTube and a man told about he did something similar (had his audience name his product) and he turned it into a contest. What a great idea!
So, I'm having a contest where everyone is a winner. To enter is extremely simple:
- leave a comment here or on twitter or facebook with your two biggest relationship problems and what you would like to see this program be about.
- EVERYONE who enters gets a free copy of my ebook due out May 1, 2014: "The One Essential Ingredient to Have a Happy, Loving and Close Relationship".
- The person who gives me the very best idea for my program will win the program as well as a $100 gift card to Barnes and Noble.
Deadline to enter: May 1, 2014 Contest winner announced: May 3, 2014