Thursday, April 17, 2014
The Effortless Seven Day Challenge To Have Loving Thoughts
There's this crazy myth going around that a great relationship takes work. I completely disagree. All the great relationships that I have and that I've seen that others have are completely effortless. Effort = struggle and struggle doesn't lend itself well to happiness.
Effortlessness is what you do without thinking and the things that you do without thinking are your habits. You want to create habits that are uplifting for your relationship and create good feelings.
However, changing the habits that we DO is far less effective in getting where we want to be that changing what we habitually THINK.
Why is this? Because thoughts are the foundation of our reality. Everything that your life consists of was created this way: you think thoughts that cause you to feel a certain way and then out of those feelings, you react or respond in the words that you speak and what you do. What you say and do creates your world. Things don't just appear in your life.
You want to refocus your attention on the people, things and circumstance that you love. An extremely effective way to do this is to ask yourself questions because questions are like a command to your brain and your brain won't stop searching and finding examples to answer the question.
Thinking the thoughts that will get you where you want to be is THE most important part of getting there. From there your feelings emerge and if these feelings are empowering and positive, you'll speak positive and empowering words and you'll take positive and empowering actions.
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